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kareemah -
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Dear Sheikh, for over a couple of years now I deal with a severe depression.
I feel worthless, stupid and useless. I also feel very lonely. Sometimes
I think that being dead is better. How can I as a Muslimah learn to
love and appreciate myself? I cry a lot and feel very unhappy. How
can I get rid of my unstable behavior? Please help me. At the moment
I have a counselor but a non-Muslim. I want to know how I can heal
myself with the medicine of Allah. Jazaak Allah.
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Sister Kareemah: Assalamu `alaykum,
There are several types of depressions. One is genetic in nature,
so if there is a history of depression in your extended family, it
makes the offspring more prone to depression. Another type of depression
is reactive in nature; they result from on-going unpleasant events
in life. Depending upon the origin, length and severity of depression,
a treatment regimen is determined which may consist of medications
as well as counseling and therapy.
Regardless of the origin of depression, if a person learns to change
his/her ways of thinking and lives by healthy Islamic beliefs, it
would bring internal strength to deal and cope with the disappointments
of life. So, look at where is your depression coming from, and what
are the messages you give yourself in your head that makes you feel
depressed, continue to take properly prescribed medicine and seek
counselling/therapy to help you examine your beliefs and change your
ways of thinking and responding to events in life. Insha'Allah, it
would begin to make you stronger to deal with your depression.
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AM - India
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Assalamu`alaykum Wa Rahmat Allah Wa Barakatuhu
OCD tends to be one of the difficult mental disorders to treat especially
if obsessions are religious & sexual. The obsessions, the anxiety
and the most difficult part the “feelings” which are indescribable
and unbearable. It stays with the patient for days and sometimes even
months are much difficult for the patient to cope with. It is a daily
battle.
When an OCD patient cannot be at easy at whatever he does to help
himself to face this demon. What shall he do? If the patient helps
himself by the statements like “Allah will surely help me” “just be
patient” etc., etc., All these statements backfire with more obsessions
sticking on the statements. How a person will be at ease under these
circumstances.
For other type of illness a patient can support himself by telling
himself to be patient. But OCD does not allow that, you cannot be
at peace with OCD. I know Allah does not give a soul more than it
can bear. But if you ask an OCD patient what’s going on, he cannot
describe. If medicines do not much help and if consistent prayers
do not change the situation. What should one do??
Your comments please to handle or manage OCD. Thanks and best regards.
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Dear Brother, Wa alaikum salaamu warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
I truly feel for your situation. OCD truly is a debilitating mental
illness. I have been dealing with a couple of these cases presently.
As you said, it is often related to religious and sexual issues. Often,
there is also sexual abuse or indulging into sexual pleasures in the
history. There is also high degree of guilt associated with this history.
The person is often trying to wash away his guilt or desperately trying
to ward off evil. The condition often has severe effects on a person's
daily life.
However, by the Grace of Allah (SWT), it is treatable, although it
takes a long time to treat it. But, if the patient sincerely follows
the prescribed treatment regimen, which may consist of medication
as well as psychotherapy, it helps bring the obsessions and compulsions
under control.
I am not sure if you have received any psychotherapy for your condition.
If not, please consult with an experienced counselor/psychologist
locally. If one is not available, contact me at http://www.shifa.ca/.
I will try to help you long distance through cyber counselling.
Hope this helps, Insha'Allah.
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fatin_ie -
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library assistant |
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Assalamualaikum. Thank you for your time reading my problem...
I'm a single woman who is 28 years old, not married and don't have
any boyfriend... about 3 years ago I was diagnosed by having mental
problem... I'm suffering from schizophrenia... right now I'm working
as a library assistant. From time to time I always think why I get
schizophrenia. Now I know why I was diagnosed as one of schizophrenia
patients. Right now I am working hard as I could to help myself to
regain my life back. I'm a graduate in accounting but I'm not working
as accountant due to my problem health. My problem is: can schizophrenia
patient like to be married to someone and be a good mother. I don't
want to be alone with all my life. Please help me...
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Dear Sister, Wa alaikum salaamu warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
It is sad to hear your situation. However, there is always hope for
a true believer. Schizophrenia is of different types. Without knowing
which type of schizophrenia you are suffering from, I cannot tell
you the prognosis. As well, the prognosis is not very good if the
onset of the illness was early in life like in late teen age. If the
onset is later in life, the prognosis to get rid off the illness is
much better. In your case, it seems that you were doing well up until
age 25. So, insha'Allah there is better hope.
Now, regardless of the severity of the illness, Schizophrenia is manageable,
and many patients I know who were diagnosed as schizophrenic, are
living an acceptably normal life, married and with children too. Many
are very highly educated people as well.
So, with proper medication management, psychotherapy and good family
support, you should do well Insha'Allah.
If you had told me some of the symptoms of your illness, it would
have helped me understand the nature and severity of your illness
to suggest more specific things for you to consider.
Anyways, if you need more assistance in this regard, please don't
hesitate to contact me at http://www.shifa.ca/,
and go to the counselling page.
I pray for your well being Insha'Allah.
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| Name |
Ishaq - Nigeria
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student |
| Question |
As-salamu`alaykum, please what can I do to have self-confidence?
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Dear Brother Ishaq: Wa'alaykum assalaam,
A lack of self-confidence may result from many things, among which
are: a family background where family members continually put a child
down, scold him, make him feel worthless, inadequate, deprive him
of love and care, etc.; consistent failures in daily life struggles,
etc.
Here is what I generally prescribe as homework to people who have
problem with low self confidence:
1. Write an autobiography detailing your childhood, your family life,
your life experiences so far, and everything else that you think important
in your life so far. It would help you understand how you got where
you are at right now emotionally.
2. List on a separate paper all your weaknesses and at least 3 to
5 strengths. Allah (swt) has blessed us all with strengths and weaknesses.
So, look hard for your strengths while you identify your weaknesses
more readily.
3. Be grateful and pay thanks to Allah (swt) for the strengths.
4. Make a step-by-step goal plan of using your strengths in achieving
your goals. Make sure that your goals are achievable. Break them down
in small steps, and then take one step at a time without ever worrying
about the end result. The end result - success or failure, is in the
hands of Allah (swt).
5. Don't accept from yourself any less than you can truly do, and
accept at the end whatever the results are.
6. If you fail, pray to Allah (swt) for help and try again. Remember,
the sincere efforts of a person never always go in vain.
Hope this helps. Contact me if you need further assistance at http://www.shifa.ca/.
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Aziza -
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Would you please try to give me some steps I might try to deal with
depression? I live in a small town far from any Muslim help (mosque,
community centre, etc.) and do not have access to a Muslim counselor
of any kind. I have suffered from depression off and on since as far
as I can remember (I am 51). Trying to be busy doesn't help, neither
does prayer or dhikr. When it hits me (depression) I am helpless
to do anything about it. It makes many of my days like a hell. I would
appreciate any help you could offer. Thank you and God bless you for
your help and your time.
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Dear Sister Aziza: Assalamu 'Alaykum, Please read my earlier answer
to another sister on depression.
It seems that you have been suffering from depression for a very long
time. It is also clear that there are times when you are not depressed,
as you have said, "when it hits me". What makes it hit you
and how often does it hit you?
Considering that you have suffered from it for a long time and have
survived well enough so far, you must have found some ways to cope
and deal with it. You must have some internal strengths that help
you deal with it. What are these strengths? Read my last response
to a brother regarding Low Self Confidence. I have suggested to him
some homework. You may want to try some of that yourself.
Now, if there is history of depression in your family, you are likely
to be hit by it from time to time, but remember that you have survived
it so far and can continue to cope with it, gradually in a more healthy
way.
Getting some help with examining your beliefs and your mental attitude
towards this depression may help as well. If you don't have any counselors/therapists
available locally, do contact me through my website at http://www.shifa.ca/
if you need further help with this.
Hope it helps.
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Amal - Egypt
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doc |
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As-salamu`alaykum dear professor, I can't help noticing how psychological
diseases have increased immensely in our time. I was wondering if
there is a relationship between what is happening in the world and
the increase of mental disease. Thanks for your time.
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Sister Amal: Wa alaikum salaamu warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
Indeed mental illnesses and psychological problems have increased
tremendously these days. Whereas, before they used to be illnesses
of western societies largely, now all people in the world are suffering
from more of these illnesses.
There are many reasons for this. One, in my view, is the fact that
when a person becomes too materialistically oriented with all his
preoccupations with him/herself and his/her short life in this world,
one becomes more prone to emotional disturbances, because the larger
perspective of life is lost. It is the light at the end of the tunnel
that makes one keep crawling further and further in the dark tunnels
of life. It is the hope that one day I will be out of this tunnel
Insha'Allah and that there is a better life for me out there sooner
or later. It is the belief that life is never total fun and happiness
and that I have to have my share of disappointments, failures, etc.,
that keeps one strong and relatively free of these emotional disturbances.
But, unfortunately we have lost this perspective, and consequently
suffer from lots of emotional problems.
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Abdullah -
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My brother is 17 years old with severe mental illness since he was
6 years old. He's now in the hospital with assistance from professional
workers but my mother wants him to live with us at home even it'll
be very difficult to deal with him and take care of him. She thinks
that leaving her son in the hospital means increasing dependence on
professionals and doesn't allow him to communicate with others. And
she is afraid if he left the hospital one day he'll face a lot of
troubles according to this dependence. What do you suggest, doctor?
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Brother Abdullah, Assalamu 'Alaikum,
I am sorry to hear about your brother. I think the answer will depend
completely upon the nature and severity of his illness. If his illness
can be brought under control and managed through medication and a
supportive and understanding family environment, then yes he can be
brought home with regular assessment visits with the doctors. But,
if his illness is unpredictable and cannot be managed through medication
and other treatments, then it will be a burden on the family to manage
him without proper knowledge of what is happening with him and how
to handle it on a daily basis.
I am sorry, I cannot help you any more without knowing exactly the
nature, history, symptoms of his illness and effectiveness of treatment
so far.
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| Name |
alen - Bosnia and Herzegovina
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student |
| Question |
Salamu'Alaikum Professor: What are the causes of mental illnesses
in general? Are they hereditary or acquired in life? Jazaka'Allau
khairan.
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Wa alaikum salaamu warahmatullahi wabarakatuh:
The answer to your question depends upon which school of thought one
comes from in the field of mental health.
Some, especially in the field of medicine/psychiatry, believe it to
be largely hereditary and biological in nature. Other, especially
in the fields of psychology/social work/faith, etc., attribute it
to socio/cultural/familial factors, thereby disregarding the possibility
of heredity and biochemical changes in the brain.
For me, the causes of mental illness may be either or both. In my
practice, I don't begin with one or other assumption, each person
is unique and a true diagnosis can be only made by looking at his/her
unique life and family, without putting him in preformed boxes of
theories.
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Daughter-in-law - United States
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housewife |
| Question |
I have a problem with my mother-in-law. She
has an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. She is obsessed with cleanliness,
hygiene etc. although she does not realise she has a problem. She
is constantly worried about germs & bacteria. I will give you
some examples;
1. She will not touch an outside door handle, only with gloves or
a tissue.
2. She insists that her cutlery, plates the table etc is washed properly
whenever we go out to eat.
3. If you sit on public transport you have to get changed before sitting
on her furniture.
I'm not going to even start on how she prepares food.
Anyway, when i first moved into her house, it didn't really bother
me, but now I have a baby & as you can imagine you have to be
extra clean around the baby. I'm not able to bath her when I want,
just in case she catches a cold, I cant feed her certain foods, I
cant take her out as often as I would like, just incase she catches
an infection. The list goes on. I am actually worried that this will
affect my daughters growth, development, behavior etc. It is really
frustrating me now & although I know this is a mental disorder,
I am finding it very difficult to deal with.
She doesn't accept that she has a problem, instead thinks we are all
dirty and careless. How can I make her realize that we are all 'normal'
& she is the one with the problem & she is making all our
lives difficult.
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Dear Sister, Assalamu Alaikum,
Please read my earlier answer to another brother with OCD. OCD is
often associated with and obsession with cleanliness and exaggerated
worries about catching filth, germs, etc.
This disease is not easy to treat. Like in many mental illnesses,
the older a person gets with this disease, the more difficult is to
treat him/her, often because the person adapts to the disease and
does not consider it as an illness.
Your worries are valid. If a growing child is subjected to these types
of obsessive compulsive behavior towards cleanliness, he/she may acquire
the same symptoms later in life.
I don't know of your family circumstances, so making appropriate recommendations
will be difficult for me. Before, I can make further recommendation,
I need to know who all live in the same household, how are they affected
by it and cope with it, how does your husband think and feel about
your concerns, what are the possibilities of living separately, how
old is your baby, etc.
But, you may wish to consult with a qualified professional in your
locality, and I am sure he/she may be able to make further recommendations
to you in this regard. Or, contact me through my website at www.shifa.ca
One more thing, continue to be kind and caring with your mother-in-law,
knowing that she has a mental illness and is not doing these things
to make your life miserable. We pity, have mercy and deal with kindness
with those who suffer from illnesses and problems rather than getting
angry with them.
Hope this helps.
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Somana - Malaysia
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I always think life is more of a struggle and
I feel bad about my self and life in most ways. At times, I feel complete
despair. All my friends say that I'm probably depressed and I have
to visit a psychiatrist, but only one of my friends told me that I
have only to be more religious. What do you think? |
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Dear sister Somana: Assalamu Alaikum,
Life indeed is a struggle for all of us in many ways. But, it has
its good moments. If one is not able to appreciate the good moments
of life and is always brooding about its struggles and challenges,
then one does need help. But, this also does not necessarily mean
that one is suffering from depression.
What needs to happen is one has to learn different and healthy ways
of thinking and responding to these struggles of life; and that is
what I believe you need. Becoming more religious may mean different
things to different people. But, if you begin to understand the teachings
of religion about life and its struggles, then it would help you change
the way you think about them and therefore you would respond to them
differently, more healthily.
Hope this helps.
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Marty -
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I have a son who is acting really strange lately.
We are a Muslim family and have been so for his whole life. We do
all the expectations our religion calls for. Lately my son has started
wearing an upside star on his neck and wishes to be called Satan.
He wears black nail polish and has colored his hair black. He has
put a huge lock on his door and plays loud music. The music has hateful
lyrics and sounds awful. Last week we caught him in the house with
three naked girls. We excused the girls and talked to him about the
matter. He insisted the girls were itchy and he was merely trying
to remedy the situation. We didn't buy that excuse and grounded him.
Because we have grounded him, he says he will put something in our
food to poison us. Last night I caught him in the kitchen opening
different bottles. I asked him what he was doing and he merely grinned
and said he was looking for a drink. My wife and I are scared now.
I asked him about it and he said he summoned all the demons in the
universe to live within him. It's crazy! |
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Dear Marty, Assalamu Alaikum,
Wow, it is crazy. You have not told me how old is your son and how
lately these behaviors have begun. But, from the sound of it, it is
highly likely that he has ended up in some type of cult, or a company
that thrives on these gothic, cultic type of thinking and practices.
Depending upon whether he is into drugs as well or not, he may be
quite dangerous to himself and to others.
You must seek urgent help from him from the local youth facilities
and professionals. A proper diagnosis has to be made in order to understand
the nature and origin of these behaviors, so we can come up with a
treatment plan for him and for the family.
Sorry, without further knowledge, I am not able to make specific recommendations,
except to be very careful about him and around him. I assume he is
in his early teans, like 12-14 years.
Anyways, it is an interesting case. I have worked in a residential
institution for severaly emotionally and behaviorally disturbed youth,
and have seen many such cases in my 13 years of work there. With a
change of environment and strict controls around them to ensure no
drug/alcohol intake, and a structured life routines bring these symptoms
under control quickly.
Have faith and hope. I pray for your his well being. Contac me at
my website www.shifa.ca if you need further help. |
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| Name |
Manar - United Arab Emirates
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| Profession |
editor |
| Question |
Thank you professor for this valuable session.
My question is rather how to prevent mental diseases and what measures
can be taken by the muslim family to protect against them? I think
that most mental diseases occur as a result of stress from environment
eg: parents, peer pressure etc... |
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Sister Manar: Assalamu Alaikum,
Please read my earlier answer to a sister from Egypt. I have explained
my view therein of why are we suffering from an increased number of
mental illness these days.
In another reply, I have also talked about the causes of mental illness.
Yes, environment, family background, heredity, biochemical changes
in the brain, all may play some role in these illnesses.
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Muslima - United States
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student |
| Question |
Assalamu alaikum,
My brother-in-law has been having deep depression and hallucinations
every since he was a teenager (he's now about 27). My in-laws keep
treating him with "religious treatment" but it's not working!
He needs professional help, so what can I do to convince them to send
him to a psychiatrist? There seems to be a cultural barrier (they
live in the middle east and my husband and I live in America). I've
already seen a person in my family commit suicide, and I don't want
there to be another. What is the best way to approach the situation?
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Dear Sister: Wa alaikum salaam,
It sounds like his depression and mental illnesses has roots in his
family background. Unfortunately, in many Muslim countries, these
illnesses are not recognized as true illnesses and therefore appropriate
treatment is not sought.
The only thing you can do is to continue to point out to them that
the religious treatment has not helped so far, and that there is no
harm in trying something different.
Make sure not to imply mental illness, because it would make them
further resistant to seeking appropriate treatment. Instead, refer
to the possibility of medical treatment and some medications that
are now known to be effective in the treatments of such problems.
Hope this helps.
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Sara -
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I am the kind of person that is totally stressed out and very insecure.
Anything that I do makes me stressed and I find it difficult to take
decisions. I don’t know how to build an Islamic, calm environment
at home. I want to put my soul in the kids. I am not sure about this
and it makes me stressed. I am not that kind of a person that is very
socially involved. I am a very boring person. No one seems to like
being with bad and boring me. I try to meet people to learn how people
talk to each other, but people are not interested in becoming friends
with me, I am too stressed and they can, of course, feel it. No one
seems to like being with bad and boring me. I feel I am a bad mother. |
| Answer |
Sister Sara: Assalamu Alaikum,
The root cause of your problem seems to be a very low self image resulting
in a lack of self confidence and a self damning attitude.
You need to seek counseling to get over these issues. If you haven't
already, find a qualified and experienced counselor locally to seek
help. If you can't, write to me if you like counseling long distance
over internet. My website is www.shifa.ca
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Naqsh - United States
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student |
| Question |
Salam Alaikum,
I have a problem which really scares me. Sometimes when I am about
to go to sleep or during sleeping something happens and all my body
stops moving. I can't move my body, I cant talk and I cant do anything
except to open my eyes and look around helplessly. I sometimes even
shake my head a little bit so that someone would wake me up because
it scares me to death. What is it?
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Brother Naqah: wa alaikum salaam,
Your situation is very common. Nothing to be scared of.
The time is running out for this live dialogue. But write to me at
www.shifa.ca for further help.
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| Name |
Mazen -
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| Question |
Is there any islamic Schizophrenia Support Groups? |
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I dont know |
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| Name |
Tahira - United States
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| Profession |
Teacher |
| Question |
Assalamu 'alaikum Brother:
There are many areas of the world where armed conflict is ongoing.
Too many of these areas are impacting Muslim children and consequently
many are suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - what can
we do for those children? What is the best treatment - besides the
cessation of armed conflict?
Jazakumallah khayran
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Sister Tahira: wa'alaikum assalaamu warahmatullah,
It is loaded question, but due to the time constraints, let me give
you one of the solutions.
PTSD symptoms are relieved easily with a supportive and understanding
environment. If we, the Muslims, can provide some immediate love,
care, understanding and security to these children, women and men,
it may be of great help.
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Yas - United States
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I have been through a lot of mental & physical abuse over the
last 4 years. Basically my husband has been having an affair &
every time I question him, we argue & he ends up beating me. I
lost a baby at 28wks & I blame my husband for this. We lost our
house too over the last year. I gave birth to another baby, who was
critically ill & stayed in hospital for 5months before I could
take him home. All this is making me very depressed & now I sometimes
get these thoughts in my head, that maybe its all my fault & Allah
is punishing me for something I must have done in the past. At times
I just want to end my life.
I am alone most of the time at home with my baby & I feel my depression
is affecting the way I care for my baby.
An on-line counselor says I maybe suffering from Post Natal Depression.
Is this possible as my baby is now 1yr old.
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Sister Yas:
I am sorry to hear your plight. It seems to me that you have been
suffering from depression and marital issues long before the baby
came.
You need help. Please seek it locally through a qualified counselor.
The time is running out for this live dialogue, so I can't get into
the details of your issues, but write to me at www.shifa.ca if you
need further help.
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| Name |
Anna - Ireland
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Student |
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Salam alaikum brother,
May Allah keep, guide and bless you insha'Allah. I am revert to Islam
of few months, alhamdulillah and I like to share that I suffered before
very badly with depression, low self esteem and thoughts of suicide,
since I become a Muslim, I still struggle but I find great grounding
and strength in these matters, alhamdulilah for that. I understand
Allah doesn't accept prayers of the insane as they are not accountable
for their actions and so I trust Allah will deal justly with such.
My enquiry is in relation to my mental health, not clinical, but a
developed personality disorder as most have due to difficulty in staying
true to our intended nature in this life. I see many missed opportunities
in my life due to troubled childhood and how much I was incapable
to achieve. I feel so frustrated and limited yet with gifts of many
talents and good intellect. Every time I under achieve even though
I am able to do well, but lack will, motivation, mainly as result
of fear of more bad, and wondering what is the point? My father suffers
with manic depression and paranoid schizophrenia, my mother depression.
So far, I had 2 suicide in my immediate family and many attempts as
well as self harm. Perhaps I am scared to push myself in case I cant
cope. I don t know really what my question is.. just, feeling very
isolated, I tried many times to talk with other Muslims about my fears
etc, but usually they don't understand…. I don't even know what they
can tell me! I just wish I had a friend to share this with but I am
now alone 24/7 because I find no one to relate to and I am building
a "safe bubble" around myself. However, I also suffer from
guilt sensations of what I can do to benefit others, yet I fail to
do anything.. I really know this is not a counseling session but I
know there is peace in Allah. However long our life is .. just keep
true to Allah, till true peace will come, Insha'Allah..
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Sister Anna, wa alaikum salaam
We don't have time to go into all the issues you have identified here.
Please contact me at www.shifa.ca and I will try to help you further.
Indeed there is peace in the remembrance of Allah (swt).
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Marty -
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| Question |
Thank you doctor for your answer.. my son is 13 years old. My wife
told me to tell you. In the summer we left our kid with a neighbor
for one day. Anyways, when we picked him up the following day we were
surprised to find our son playing with an Ouija board. We never thought
anything of it but now this may hold some key to why our son is very
different today. |
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Yup. Keep digging and you may find more of what he has been doing.
Then seek help for him. Good luck. |
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| Name |
muslima - Canada
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| Profession |
student |
| Question |
Assalam alaikum.
My brother is showing some symptoms of schizophrenia such as paranoia,
isolation, bizarre thoughts. He is not working or going to school.
He lives alone in Europe. He refuse to go to the doctor. He refuse
to complete his documents, so he can go to Muslim country where he
can see a Muslim specialist. This situation was going on for more
than 10 years. Al-Hamdulillah my brother prays, fasts and recites
Qur'an. He cut all the contact with his family. He is so angry with
my parent because of horrible childhood experience they put him through.
My father abandoned my brother in a third world country where he did
not know any one. Now he hates my parents. He do not listen to any
one. What can we do about this situation?
Thanks for your answer.
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Dear Sister, wa alaikum salaam
He does need help. How is he managing by himself in Europe with such
illness? He must have some ways he has developed to cope with this
illness and survive. Ask him to get in touch with me if he likes,
at www.shifa.ca. I can say much more at this time. |
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malik - Guyana
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Salaamu warahmatullahi wabarakatuh:
I am Muslim living with a muslim wife form about eight years and now
I am getting to dislike her very much. She is not a thinking person
or a comfort to me except when I need sex real bad. I have a business
and all she does is work. She has no ideas of her own. She would not
say if my ideas are right or wrong. I would call her the slave with
out a brain. She speaks a lot of bad things about me to her family.
Her family is at war with her because she speaks bad things about
me to them.
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Brother Malik: wa alaikum salaam
It seems you need some individual counseling to help you evaluate
your beliefs and attitudes towards marriage and marital life.
You also need some marital counseling thereafter to help you both
resolve the issues.
Do you believe in receiving counseling? Do you believe there may be
something wrong with you too that may need to be fixed? Think about
it.
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Salaam Alaikum;
Sometimes when I am depressed my situation becomes horrible. I don't
like anyone talking to me and the depression continues for days. I
cant eat anything and what ever I eat I feel like I will vomit. No
matter how hard I try to make my self happy I still end up in the
same situation. What to do?
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Dear Naq: wa alaikum salaam
Have you sought any treatment for your depression yet?
There are some very effective medicines that would help control your
depression, and then you can seek some counseling to learn to change
your ways of thinking and your beliefs and attitudes about life.
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